Embracing Visibility and Educating Others
Emma’s journey to self-acceptance took a positive turn when she came across the Instagram account of Zoe Stoller, a U.S.-based LGBTQ+ educator and social worker. Stoller’s content focused on raising awareness about lesser-known identities, including abrosexuality. For Emma, this discovery felt like a defining moment — finally giving her the words to describe what she had felt her entire life.
“You know in cartoons when a lightbulb appears above their heads? That’s how it felt when I read their post,” Emma said. From that point on, she made it her mission to not only embrace her own identity but also to educate others, writing articles and sharing her story publicly to help normalize abrosexuality and make information more accessible to those who, like her, had felt lost for years.
Navigating Misunderstandings and Constant Validation Requests
Despite her efforts to explain her identity, Emma continues to encounter people who demand that she “pick a lane” to make her identity easier to understand. Some have suggested she simply identify as bisexual, but Emma insists that doing so would erase the unique experience of her fluctuating attractions — the very aspect that defines abrosexuality.
She wants people to know that just because a label is unfamiliar to someone doesn’t make it invalid. “We’re all learning new things about ourselves all the time — that’s what growth and development is about,” Emma said. Though hurtful comments still arise, Emma has built a stronger support network of friends and family who are eager to learn about her identity, proving that with education and empathy, acceptance becomes far more attainable.