The concept of a wedding often evokes the image of a couple exchanging vows, but what if love could transcend this boundary? In São Paulo, Brazil, a unique polyamorous wedding ceremony shattered traditional expectations, showcasing the beauty of love that knows no limits.
For many LGBTQ+ individuals, wedding planning can feel isolating due to the industry’s deep-rooted heteronormative structure. The challenges multiply when the ceremony involves more than two people. However, for Douglas Casali, Átila Rodrigues, and Douglas Haynes—three partners deeply committed to one another—their special day became a symbol of their love, resilience, and commitment. Despite the absence of legal recognition for polyamorous marriages in Brazil, they decided to marry in an intimate rooftop ceremony, creating a truly extraordinary event that reflected their bond.
Polyamory, the practice of engaging in consensual and ethical multiple romantic relationships, is often misunderstood. Unlike polygamy, which is often rooted in cultural or religious traditions, polyamory emphasizes equality and mutual respect. It allows individuals to love and form intimate connections with more than one person at a time, without secrecy or betrayal.
The journey to their wedding was not without its hurdles. Planning a polyamorous wedding requires navigating a wedding industry that is primarily built for monogamous couples. This included rewriting the ceremony script, adapting roles like “best man” and “maid of honor,” and dealing with the lack of legal recognition. Despite these challenges, the trio’s determination led to a ceremony that was deeply personal and inclusive, a beautiful celebration of their love.
The wedding took place in the heart of São Paulo, at the stunning Espaço Aroo rooftop, with a breathtaking view of the city skyline. The décor was a thoughtful blend of modern aesthetics and traditional elements, incorporating subtle nods to the number three, representing their throuple. The symbolic green color of their suits echoed the values of growth and harmony.
The ceremony, officiated by Lidia Vas, featured unique traditions such as the handfasting ritual, where cords were wrapped around their hands to symbolize their unity. They also exchanged rings, committing to one another in equal partnership. The emotional vows shared between the partners reflected their deep love and devotion, making this wedding an unforgettable experience.